This is where I will be writing about both the subject of receiving and also about my journey—especially over this next year—as I travel to get the word out about my new book, The Power of Receiving.
I am passionate about showing people how to balance their giving with receiving. We have not grown up in a culture that teaches us this valuable skill. We don’t even have a vocabulary for receiving. Has anybody ever heard someone say, “Wow! Look at that person—what a great receiver!”
I wrote The Power of Receiving to teach you how to receive and to show you that when your receiving is balanced with your giving, you not only are healthier in mind, body and spirit and your giving made stronger, you also have a better chance of achieving your goals.
I’ve come to think of the act of receiving as a multi-faceted jewel that reflects light on every aspect of one’s life. I know this is a big statement to make about a subject to which few have given much thought! But I have been thinking about, reading, exploring and researching this topic for over twenty years. And I’ve learned a lot about receiving and what happens when giving and receiving are out of balance.
I have witnessed in my own life as well as in others, the personal consequences of choosing relationships where I gave excessively to my own detriment. I eventually came to phrase it this way: The only possible match for someone who doesn’t know how to give is someone who doesn’t know how to receive.
I’ve seen the exhaustion and disillusionment that occurs for many who work in the helping fields—nurses, social workers, aid workers, etc—when they give and give and give and never replenish their well. I’ve learned that many who are drawn to these professions are also the go-to people in their own families. When their work-day is done, their giving continues—and too often with little reciprocity in their family relationships.
I’ve seen caregivers burnout because of shouldering the care of others when others could help out but don’t and when organizations exist to help them but are not accessed.
I’ve witnessed organizations and governments contribute to multi-generational poverty, giving to those who are in need of aid while not creating pathways that cultivate giving.
Have I convinced you of the value of receiving? My book shows you how to do it. It will be released on December 23, 2010 and I will be reminding you periodically until then that you can pre-order The Power of Receiving through the link on this blog.
I welcome your comments. Would love to receive them actually.