Seven Goal-Writing Tips That Will Lead You to Your Dreams

I used to chase after my goals as if they were prey and I was the hunter. Whether I focused with laser-like intensity, wrote a detailed grammatically correct wish-list or made bargains with God, I was a person who was on task. No half-hearted attempts from me!

When the goal-object of my affection—whether a desired writing project, a person or other goals—didn’t manifest, I would try to figure out what had gone wrong, what I could improve. Then, like Sisyphus rolling that boulder up the mountain, I would gather my energy for another try. It never occurred to me that only 50% was required from me to manifest my goal.

Most of us have been taught that if you want something, you should go after it. And it’s true that without initiative and activity, you will have a hard time accomplishing much of anything. But have you ever wondered what your goal wants from you?

If you think of your goal as checking you out to see if you are a good fit, it makes sense that being attractive to your goal is just as important as concentrating on what you want.

Follow these seven goal-writing tips and you will be well on your way to achieving your dreams.

1. Write Down Only One Goal

The reason that I advise starting with only one goal is so that you can give it your undivided attention. Many, many goals never get enough umph to manifest simply because too little attention is paid to them. If you focus on several goals at the same time, it’s a bit like double-dating. Can you blame a goal for feeling lukewarm about you or wanting to find someone else—someone who will appreciate it and give it lots of attention?

2. Write Down Your Goal in One Sentence

Writing your goal in one sentence forces you to be clear about what you want. People love it when you are concise. Nobody likes to play guessing games or to be held hostage listening to a long rambling list of requests or demands! It’s the same with your goal. So make sure your sentence is specific and concise.

3. Give Your Goal a Time Frame

Deadlines give you something to aim for whether you are training for a marathon, planning a wedding or finishing a work project. A goal is more likely to spring into action when it has ten days to deliver than if it has an unlimited amount of time to get it done.

4. Your Goal Should Be Simple and Specific

The more specific you are, the more your goal has to work with. This is true for any conversation or any relationship. But too much information up front can be a bit arduous for your goal. If you are on a first date, for example, and your date presents a long list of requirements that include specifics about love-making ability, plans for children and salary must-haves, would you think twice about seeing that person again?

5. Don’t Get Hung Up on How Your Goal Is Worded

If it’s not spelled correctly or the grammar is incorrect and you have a double negative in your sentence, don’t worry about it unless your goal is to be an English teacher. Just start the process.

6. Your Goal Should Be Measurable

You need to know when you have actually achieved your goal. For example, if your goal is to get a job, you will know whether you have a job or you don’t. If your goal is to be happy or to feel good, ask yourself how you will know that you have reached your goal.

7. Don’t Limit Yourself

Don’t decide ahead of time that your goal is unrealistic. Write exactly what you want. You are starting a relationship with your goal. You and the goal will work out some of the finer details as you get to know one another.

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Once you write your goal down, set it aside. You are now in a relationship with your goal. Be a good partner; be kind and considerate. Listen carefully so that you can receive what your goal is saying to you.

My boulder-rolling days are behind me. I now know that I am in charge of 50% and my goal has the other 50%. And I am always interested and eager to hear what my goal wants from me. It’s a relief to have the input and help!

What does your goal want from you?

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6 thoughts on “Seven Goal-Writing Tips That Will Lead You to Your Dreams

  1. I am working on two life-long goals: 1) Finding someone to love intimately and being loved that way in return, i.e., find a mate; 2) being a successful creative artist.

    The first one is very clear, but the second one has a history. I am a drummer who plays rock and jazz mainly. I also have been writing screenplays. For years I focused on the goal of writing and selling screenplays because I like writing them, love film, and one can make a bit of money selling them or being a writer in that vein. And making money in music requires compromises, like playing commercial stuff that is not fulfilling.

    I’ve come to realize that that is a limiting idea; I can “make it” doing a lot of things ranging from acting in commercials or character roles, to writing other things besides scripts, to winning lotto and playing and writing what I want.

    Questions: what’s the best way to realize multiple goals?

    Lately I’ve been asking my higher self and the universe to help me become a “financially successful creative artist” , while continuing to work on new script, looking to market an old script, plan out other writing projects.

    Is this too vague a way ask and receive? Should each goal under “creative artist” have its own page? How does one follow up?

    • Hi Mark. Thanks for your question. I recommend taking one goal from inception to completion. That way all of your attention is on the one goal. Be specific so that your goal doesn’t have to figure out what you mean. A “financially, successful creative artist” is vague. You may want to take one of your writing projects and put a dollar number on how much you would like to receive from selling it. Get that goal is a nice succinct sentence with an end date on it. I cannot overstate the importance of maintaining a strong Receive Practice while you are working with your goal. By the way, if you are still in New York, you may be able to join a class. It’s possible that I may do something there in April. So stay tuned!

  2. Hi Amanda,
    I am in the process of writing a Metaphysical book,having been on the path for tweny plus years. Although I am very organized crazy obstacles keep getting in the way either domestic upheavels needing my attention or work which is a mine field. I am constantly using my energy trying to fight injustice or calm people down. I am a Libra and yes Saturn is in my sign,very near my Sun but I am drawn to your techniques as a powerful over ride, a bigger picture .Could I have your comments please.
    Thank you so much,
    Stella

    • Hi Stella,
      Thanks for your question. I am assuming you have read The Power of Receiving. So, I am going to suggest the exercise I discuss in my book, The Monster Celebration. It is very effective for welcoming those little circle mavericks into The Big Circle, which is where you want this chaos-producer rebel to ‘live.’ After you have done this exercise, please write back and tell me about it and we will see how to proceed from there. Have fun with the exercise!
      Amanda

  3. Dear Amanda,
    I am reading your book and performed the Monster Celebration.I was amazed when a little waif and stray of about 11 years old, from the Victorian era came out of the closet. She was with a guardian maid who left the scene when she felt the girl was safe.This little dejected girl perked up when she was offered food and warmth at a Jacobean Banquet I invited her to.This little girl had a lovely sense of fun when she felt safe.When I made this connection it triggered a real gut reaction which I knew to be powerful.How curious that a shadow could be like this but you did state that it could present as anything.
    This work of yours is deeply transformative and I thank you for it. I really want to keep this young girl with me to nurture her,rather than put her away in the closet.Would this be a good move.
    Many thanks,
    Stella

    • Hi Stella,
      What an interesting Monster Celebration! Thanks for contacting me. I am always amazed by the infinite variety of monsters that some from the closets. Many people are so delighted at meeting their monsters that they are hesitant about returning them to the closet.

      Just like yours, many monsters are lovely. But there is a reason that you put your monster in the closet to begin with and meeting with it for short periods of time helps you get to know and understand each other. When you release your monster, it comes into your life but in a stunted or immature form that can cause quite a bit of havoc!

      Just like you write, this is a very powerful and transformative exercise. Allow it to unfold over time so that the integration is natural and not rushed. If you take your time, you will know when to keep it with you.

      I hope this helps! Let me know how you do. Also, if you want, check out my Facebook page where people also post Monster Celebrations.

      Amanda

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