I wrote about the importance of developing intuition in my last book, Born to Receive.
I’ve ended up thinking a lot about this topic since I’ve been working on a new book, How to Be Safe: What Every Woman Needs to Know to Thrive in the 21st Century.
In Born to Receive, I shared an event that happened to me when I was robbed at gunpoint by two men in New York City.
Although my intuition told me that I should not let them follow me into my apartment building, I ignored that little voice.
I’ve had conversations with many people since that time who also ignored their intuition and ended up in a dangerous situation.
I will be blogging about my new book in the months ahead. But first, here is an excerpt from Born to Receive:
The Role of Intuition
When you drill down into a feeling, logic helps you connect a situation or person to how you feel. Intuition is different. It’s a feeling that you can’t explain. Intuition is when you get a hunch, a vibe, or a premonition that doesn’t make logical sense. Intuition is often present in those decisions that turn your life in a positive direction such as a hunch to take a certain job, or move to a new area, or contact a particular person.
Intuition is also at work when the hairs on the back of your neck stand up when you are in the presence of someone who otherwise seems perfectly nice. It’s at work when you walk into a room and feel like you need to get out. But if anybody asked you why, you would be hard-pressed to explain your reason.
Many of us are very good at tending to people’s needs and helping them to feel comfortable. This gift can put us in a difficult position if our intuition tells us that someone is bad news. A lot of us don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Have you ever overridden your natural instinct for survival by doing any of the following?
- Have you stepped into an elevator with a man you didn’t know because you didn’t want to hurt his feelings or make him feel uncomfortable?
- Have you ever stayed in a relationship even though you feared your partner may hurt or even kill you?
- Have you ever remained in a relationship with someone who emotionally, verbally, or physically abused you?
- Have you ever gotten into a car with someone who made you nervous?
Gavin De Becker, a leading expert on violent behavior, listed thirty pre-indicators of violence and murder in his book The Gift of Fear. Here’s number one: The woman has an intuitive feeling that she is at risk.
Your intuition is one of your most valuable gifts. If you practice paying attention to those hunches, vibes, and sixth-sense feelings, you will become skilled at being able to read people and situations accurately. That, in turn, will help you make positive changes in your life.