I have a saying: “If you are habitually doing more than 50% you are doing too much.” All of that activity creates stress. If half of your day is devoted to activity and half to receptivity, you give yourself relief. In this video I talk about how to consciously power-down and immerse in the healing powers of receptivity.
How many times have you rushed through your day ignoring the sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and textures that surround you? With so much going on these days, pausing to reflect, assess, and receive may seem impossible. Yet, when you are sense-absorbed, your busy mind retreats; your worries are a million miles away. Think about it. Isn’t it true that your mind is calm when, for example, you watch a beautiful sunset, smell baking bread, or listen to birds singing? In this video, I show you a couple of receptive exercises I use almost every day. If you want to learn more ways to open up and receive through your senses, I write about them in my book Born to Receive.
THE TOP TEN FEATURES OF SKILLED RECEIVERS
1. A receiver knows how to accept a compliment graciously and is genuinely pleased to receive it.
2. A receiver regularly expresses gratitude.
3. A receiver’s attention is on the present rather than dwelling on the past or fretting about the future.
4. A receiver is a good listener.
5. A receiver is observant.
6. A receiver defines a good person as a whole person rather than as someone who consistently places other people’s needs above her own.
7. A receiver does not enable people.
8. A receiver knows when to cease activity.
9. A receiver utilizes data in her environment to help her make decisions.
10. A receiver doesn’t complain.
I have learned a lot about receiving over the last couple of years as the primary caregiver for my mother who passed away last January. (See my post here for more about that.
I’ve learned a lot about giving, too. As anyone who has been a caregiver knows, there is a fine line between emptying one’s energy reserves and knowing when or how to fill them back up. I’ve found it’s a delicate balance walking that edge without going over and depleting myself. I can’t say I succeeded every day, but I approached my caregiving with my two-decade knowledge of receiving and that helped me immeasurably.
I’ve taken some time to reorient myself back into a full-time schedule and I am happy to report that I have three events on my calendar.
The first is in September in Arizona where I am giving a keynote for the Strong Families Arizona Home Visiting conference which is sponsored by the Arizona Department of Health Services. I will be talking about how to prevent burnout when you are in a caregiving role. This particular conference is for home healthcare professionals.
My second event is in Philadelphia in October for the Walnut Club, an organization that serves professional women in the Philadelphia area. The format for this event is an interview. Marla McDermott, the Club’s president will interview me about the topic of receiving, my work over the decades, and I will discuss my two books about receiving. This is a networking event at the Ritz Carlton with food, wine, and stimulating group discussion about receiving and how leaning to receive helps women both in their work life and personal life. Learn more about it here: Walnut Club
The third event is a new Receive and Manifest course. It’s been three years since I offered my five-week tele-course and I am really looking forward to working with a small group of people to help them manifest their goals. I will be doing this as a video conferencing call for the first time. The course starts on October 23rd and runs for five Mondays. You can learn more about it here: Receive Course
You can learn more about these events on my website at Amanda Owen Website If you have a group that would like to schedule a course or workshop, let me know. I am also available for private coaching.
Thanks everybody for your good wishes and support. Stay tuned for more workshops, articles, etc. as I get back into the swing of things, of my life.
Receive and Manifest Tele-Course
Begins Saturday, October 1, 2016
10:00 am to 12:00 PM
The course dates are October 1st, 8th, 15th, 22nd, and 29th
We all have areas of life that we wish were more abundant, whether we’d like more money, more love, more support, more discipline, or simply more satisfaction or joy.
Perhaps you have wanted to lose weight, have more energy, feel more appreciated, generate more revenue in your business or even fall in love.
For the past 20 years I have been studying and perfecting the art of receiving with hundreds of clients around the world. Through my workshops and classwork, I have witnessed clients transform their lives and experience phenomenal results. In short: I teach people how to not just manifest, but to actively receive what they desire the most.
Books like the The Secret and The Law of Attraction have helped people learn about about the concept of manifestation. But those books have missed a key component. They do not explain how you can prepare yourself to be open and ready to receive what you are asking for in order to attain it.
Notice I say attain and not attract. You can attract your goal right to your front door, but if you are not ready or able to open that door to receive it, the goal will pass you by.
Those who are not able to receive are attracted those who are unable to give.
The basic premise is this: You are only able to attract what you are energetically able to receive.
Otherwise it’s like you have a gate that only swings one way and all that you give doesn’t bring anything back to you because the gate doesn’t open toward you – only away from you.
If you are ready to remove the barriers that prevent you from receiving, join me for my October Receive and Manifest Course. I will personally work with you to guide you through a step-by-step process that will open up your life to the miracles of receiving so that you can achieve your goals and create the life you want and deserve.
This course is for you if you:
•Have a goal that you can’t seem to attain no matter how much you try or how hard you work.
•Feel you give, give, and give with all of your energy going out and little or nothing coming back.
•Are not even sure what would make you feel joyful.
•Feel guilty and selfish for wanting to be happy or have your needs met.
•Are ready to make a significant change in your life.
•Are tired of having the same old complaints about situations that never change.
•Could use a support group to help you stay on course, but would like some individual attention as well.
After working with me, you will…
•Learn tools and techniques you can always rely on to help you “flex your receiving muscles.”
•Learn how to create a partnership with your goal.
•Work successfully with one specific goal during the course. (see testimonials here)
•Go from a state of feeling stuck to a state of clarity and confidence.
•Go from feeling overwhelmed to confident; from a state of lack to a state of abundance.
•Learn exercises you can always use that produce extraordinary life-changing results.
•Feel empowered after the course ends to take your future goals from inception to completion.
This Receive course is the only one I am giving this year. Ten spots are available. Details here: RECEIVE
Do you feel vulnerable to cultural pressures that tell you to do more, try harder, and keep going when all you want is a nap and a snack?
Multitasking has become such an entrenched feature of modern living that many people think it is natural to be constantly busy. Our society is filled with stress junkies who are mentally frazzled, emotionally fragile, and physically depleted.
What does this have to do with the topic of writing? Creativity thrives in a receptive environment. That’s why people attend writing retreats, write behind closed doors, or seek out other environments that are free from distractions.
Whether you want to connect with your muse, an agent, a publisher, or an audience, learning how to receive as much as you give will help you. The reason for this is that giving and receiving are a natural team. If you invest in only the giving side of this equation, you will end up feeling drained and uninspired.
Energy goes out when you give, help out, and do. Energy comes in when you receive, take in, absorb, listen, or observe to name only a few receptive states.
Here is a simple way to think about this: Activity = energy out. Receptivity = energy in.
If you don’t know how to receive, you don’t get what every writer needs: those who can help you.
Your Best Friends
- Creativity: Your relationship with your muse (inspiration, imagination, ideas, etc.)
- Craft: Your relationship with your teachers (educators, other writers, articles, books, etc.)
- Connections: Your relationship with the people who will bring what you have written to readers (agents, publishers, bloggers, other writers, etc.)
Every relationship is a two-way street. How you give to and receive from the ambassadors of these three important areas will help to determine your success as a writer.
A client recently asked the following question:
Is there a correlation between clutter and being unable to receive? For example my desk ends up cluttered by the end of each week as I get busier and I’m wondering if that would affect my receptive channels? Does clutter stop me from reaching my goals?
Here is my answer:
Clutter clogs. Clutter in your environment or even in your mind prevents energy, ideas, inspiration, feelings, and even people (to name only a few) from getting through to you.
Clutter interferes. Too many belongings in your living space, people who are no longer a match for who you are today, or mental debris that causes you to loop around the same familiar worries and thoughts, can easily lead to stagnation, inertia, and simply feeling stuck.
Clutter distracts. It’s no surprise that many of us fill our living space with objects and fill our days with activities, as we live in a culture that places a high value on accumulation and busyness. Isn’t there always somewhere higher to go, more places and people to see, more things to buy or at least to occupy us? I call this multitasking mayhem.
It’s hard to imagine, but until the mid-1960s people regularly threw their trash on the street and no one thought anything of it. Ashtrays emptied onto the road by drivers waiting at a red light or a bag of fast-food leftovers pitched out of a car traveling on the highway didn’t cause a ruckus or even a raised eyebrow from anyone. These days, people encounter not only raised eyebrows, they also receive a fine.
While no one is going to give you a ticket for not picking up your stuff at home or cleaning out your car, littered environments interfere with daily functioning, state of mind and ultimately affect your decisions.
Have you ever said to yourself: “I can’t hear myself think! There’s too much noise, distraction, stuff to step over, too many ideas, thoughts, projects to complete, people to see, places to go” —that’s your cue to reduce clutter.
When you clear out your physical space, you open up your inner space. That spaciousness calms your nervous system, expands your awareness, and allow ideas and energy to flow toward you.
Here is a lovely quote by William Morris to inspire you to clear out clutter: “Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.”
“It’s never crowded in the last mile,” is one of my favorite sayings because it speaks to the importance of tenacity. We admire the individual who never gives up and reaches the finish line. Many of us wish we had more of this trait and did not become discouraged by obstacles or set-backs. We know that to be successful in life, we must be disciplined and persevere.
An equally important, yet little recognized skill, is the act of receiving. When giving your all is not balanced with receiving from others, the inevitable result is to end up exhausted and discouraged, which is not a good frame of mind to be in when you are trying to achieve your goals!
The idea that receiving offers a pathway to the fulfilment of personal and professional goals may not be a concept that has crossed your mind for we have not grown up in a culture that teaches us this valuable skill. We don’t even have a vocabulary for receiving. Has anybody ever heard someone say, “Wow! Look at that person—what a great receiver!”
Even though every giver has a receiver—there is a recipient for every act of giving—the giver is elevated and celebrated in our culture, while the receiver is almost wholly unknown. Most of us are familiar with the maxim, “It is better to give than receive.” Giving is important and should be encouraged. But we can’t be the giver all of the time. Sometimes we are the receiver and how we receive is just as important as how we give.
I believe the lack of understanding about the role of the receiver contributes to the current multitasking epidemic as people try to achieve their aims by piling pile upon task after task. I call it multitasking mayhem.
If you spend one week paying attention to the balance between your giving and receiving, you will be amazed by how often you turn away what people try to give to you. Here are ideas to get you started:
5 Ways to Replenish, Refuel, and Receive
• Accept offers of help. Just like you put gas in the car so it will run and eat food for energy fuel, let people replenish your reserves by giving to you.
• Don’t try to do it all. Ask people to do their fair share at home and at work. Let someone else return the library books, walk the dog, or take care of a work assignment.
• Learn how to say “no.” If you do not honor your boundaries, others won’t either.
• Take time to smell the roses. Take a break and go outside. Breathe deeply, watch the clouds, and listen to the birds.
• Pause, watch, and notice the results of what you set in motion by your activities, and you will learn important information that will help you.
Make a commitment to receive something every day, whether you accept a compliment, welcome an offer of help, or notice something beautiful in your environment. You will not only feel healthier in mind, body and spirit, you will also have a better chance of achieving your personal and professional goals.